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Lying by Omission: Why Silence Hurts More Than the Lie (and How to Rebuild Trust)

The conversation didn’t contain a single false statement. You replayed it three times in your head to be sure. They never lied — not technically. But somehow you ended that exchange with a version of reality that turned out to be wrong, and now you’re standing in the kitchen wondering how that happened, and what else you don’t know. That’s lying by omission. It’s the deception that doesn’t require a lie. It’s the truth shaped through silence — what they chose not to say, what they let you assume, the question they answered while leaving out the part that mattered. For many people, finding out about an omission hurts more than discovering an outright lie. There’s no clean moment of dishonesty to point at. Just the slow realisation that you’ve been making decisions, building trust, and investing in a relationship while missing information your partner had the whole time. The betrayal isn’t in any single sentence. It’s...
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Being and Doing: How to Balance Masculine and Feminine Energy

You’re constantly busy and never quite caught up. You finish a sprint at work and immediately stack the next one. You can’t remember the last time you did something purely for the pleasure of doing it. Or maybe the opposite — you’re full of ideas and longing, but the follow-through never quite happens. Plans drift. Projects stall. The day disappears. Both of these are signs of an imbalance between two energies most of us carry without naming: the energy of doing and the energy of being . In many traditions — from Taoism’s yin and yang, to Hinduism’s Shakti and Shiva, to Carl Jung’s framework of inner opposites — these are called masculine and feminine energy. The names are old. The pattern is universal. And almost everyone in modern life is leaning hard into one side. This guide breaks down what masculine and feminine energy actually are (and aren’t), how imbalance shows up in your body and your relationships, and the practical work Calgary ...
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Emotional Mind, Rational Mind & Wise Mind: The DBT States of Mind Explained

  You make hundreds of decisions a day. Some come from your gut. Some come from a spreadsheet in your head. The best ones come from somewhere in between — a place where your feelings and your logic stop fighting and start working together. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), developed by psychologist Marsha M. Linehan in the late 1980s, names this internal landscape with three states of mind: emotional mind , rational mind (also called reasonable mind), and wise mind . Understanding which state you’re operating from — in real time — is one of the most practical mental health skills you can build. It changes how you handle conflict, make hard choices, regulate strong feelings, and recover from emotional spirals. This guide breaks down all three states, shows you how to recognise which one you’re in, and walks through the exercises Calgary DBT therapists use to help clients access wise mind on demand. What Are the Three States of Mind in DBT? DBT teaches that w...
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