The Pressure of The ‘BER’ Months

Now that we are solidly into the ‘ber’ months, the pressure seems to have increased to absolutely love Fall. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good cozy fall sweater (let’s be honest, it’s a cardigan, I live in cardigans) and a latte just as much as the next person, but the love of Fall now seems to be more of a trend than authenticity. Maybe I’m wrong, and Fall lovers were always there to this extent, but it does seem like suddenly EVERYONE LOVES Fall and feels the need to complete a boat load of Fall activities. If that’s your thing, then great! But if it isn’t really your thing and you’re following along to ‘fit in’, then all this is doing is creating more stress and expectations for yourself to follow the trends and maintain an impossible level of excitement.

It’s as if there is now a level of ‘fallness’ folks are expected to maintain – enjoying cozy sweaters or fun Halloween parties is no longer enough.

This time of year can be challenging as the colder temperatures come in. This is because as the temperature drops, our want to slow down increases. This makes a lot of sense for how our nervous systems work, however there is also a want (and maybe a bit of a need) to do so much this time of year. Sports, decorations, Halloween, preparing for holidays, and many other activities. It’s okay to want to lean into the slow down, it likely is exactly what your nervous system needs. However, the slow down feels completely opposite of this idea of ‘fallness’ – yes there is a cozy element to it, but there is also a push to complete a multitude of Fall activities. How can we lean into our bodies’ natural instinct to slow down, yet also complete every fall activity there is to achieve ultimate ‘fallness’ level?

Evey corner we turn, especially on social media, seems to present a new way that we are being human ‘wrong’. If you love going all out for Fall as social media suggests, great! If you’d rather skip over Fall and get right to winter, great! If you live your life the same way regardless of the season, great! It can be challenging to choose to not fall into the societal pressures at any given time of year, and it’s okay to listen to that natural instinct to slow down as it becomes colder instead of doing every activity you possibly can. Maybe your version of Fall and slowing down is a comfy blanket, apple scented candle, and a cozy mystery book. Maybe it’s having your whole house decorated. Maybe it’s nothing.

At the end of the day, your ‘fallness’ level truly doesn’t matter.

You do you.

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